The Huffington Post just published another one of my latest articles. It begins:
“I once heard an avid Buddhist claim she was completely non-attached to anything. She declared someone could shoot her with a gun and she wouldn’t care. Non-attachment may well exist in the depth, but not on the more superficial personality level. Trying to impose the values of one level onto another is called ‘cross-realm projection.’ Deep within, we can be spiritually non-attached, but we still deeply love and care about our family”…
“How To Stop Confusing The Distinct Realities Of Mind, Body, And Spirit”
I totally understand what you are saying. We all have speed bumps in our relationships. Even when we get into anger, we say things we should not, because it hurts and hard to take back. With that said, my oldest son has had a couple times that he left his family for another “woman”. His wife took him back the first time. They worked hard. Then in 2016 he left again. His wife, after about 6 months, asked him to come to their house to talk. They have one 21 yr old and a 16 yr old. Well, they started working with a therapist. They are back together again and I see them on a regular basis and they are really healing, so far. So if we are honest with each other can we heal or is the underline issue always there. I know about our relationship with things. I meditate everyday, if they ask, we will share our feelings, otherwise we let go, I love all parts of our family. We have never been judgmental with our kids. Have tried to let them know we love them and want them to work out their issues, not matter what. So how do we know when to let go and keep working.