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“‘I Love You, I Hate You’ – How to Leave the Pendulum Behind”
In modern psychotherapy, there is a concept called positive transference, which is the projection of positive or idealized attributes onto another person. Oftentimes, our personal relationships are based upon positive transference. Infatuation with a new dating partner is often founded upon this idealized state. It’s not uncommon for positive transference to create a relationship that even leads to marriage… Read more.
“Use this Ancient Technique to Find Inspired Solutions”
We’ve all been there many times before: Our brains spin around in endless circles as we try to figure something out, solve a problem, or make a decision. We make lists of pros and cons, consult with our team members, consultants and friends, and strive to find a logical solution or something that just feels right. But the more we work with it, the more entangled the knot becomes. In ancient times, there was a famous Seer named Jaimini. He offered an approach to problem solving that is as profound and unique as it is simple and effective. It consists of four natural steps… Read more.
“Respect: The Cornerstone of Success”
Respect is your most powerful tool in business, as in all of life. If people don’t respect you, you’re pretty much done. That holds true if you’re a boss, an employee or a freelancer. If you make a mistake, but people respect you, they will be understanding. But the converse is also true: If you make a mistake and they do not respect you, they will use it as further validation of their disrespect. So, what are the ingredients of respect? How do you gain another person’s respect? And perhaps even more importantly, how do you lose people’s respect?… Read more.
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“Forgive and Don’t Forget: How to Move on Wisely”
For a number of years, I had a holistic healing practice. During that time, a woman came to me looking for help to get over the emotional damage from abuse that had happened many years before. She told me that she had been working with counselors for a long time, trying to get over and forget about the trauma she incurred. Many of her therapists would have her relive the abuse in her mind, encouraging her to feel into it so that she could work through it. Even though she had relived it over and over again in therapy, it was still horribly traumatic every time she did so…
“Evolving Our Generation’s Mentality”
I find it fascinating to look back at generational shifts and see the resulting societal changes, particularly in the United States. Even more interesting is how they explain where American society is today. For example, during the post-World War II era, parents who lived through the Depression and the war wanted a better life for their children (now known as the Baby Boomer generation). At the same time, the idealized notion of a little house with a white picket fence, a dog, a cat, and a car in the driveway became accessible to many Americans. This became the foundation for creating an ‘ideal life’ for their children…
“The Transformative Power of Qigong”
We have been working with a Chinese Qigong master who practices the healing arts. As a result, I wanted to share some of what we have learned.
Firstly, let’s look at connective tissue or sinew.
If you look up the word sinew in the dictionary, it’s definition is closely linked to tendon. The dictionary indicates that this word is not used much anymore. However, I believe that the way the word was originally used describes the meaning that I want to convey, so I will use it in this article…
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“Is Intimacy the Opposite of What You Think It Is?”
Intimacy in a relationship is often thought of in terms of knowing one another fully. To love someone is to know in your heart everything about them, and still feel fully committed to them. These ideals, at first glance, can seem quite beautiful. The reality, however, is that such notions fall short of the true beauty of a relationship…
“The Wholeness of the World”
A world is a wholeness. It holds within it the full range of polar opposites. Everything is in perfect balance. For example, the very notion that without up, there is no down. Without good, there is no evil. Our physical world is an expression of a wholeness. For something to be whole, the full range of possibilities is contained within it. For every left, there is a right. The world is a totality…
The Huffington Post just published one of my new articles. An excerpt:
…In every relationship, a partner will, from time to time, do something that the other doesn’t care for, making them feel offended, hurt, awkward, embarrassed, or criticized. Whether it is ignored at first and repeated until it becomes unbearable or is immediately addressed at the time, responding with attack and blame is not the best choice. Even some therapeutic approaches which suggest saying, “You did this and it therefore made me feel that,” can be counterproductive and alienating”…
Read the article:
“Moving Beyond Attack and Blame in Your Relationships”
Master the ‘Adaptation and Change Cycle’ (Part 2)
The Huffington Post just published one of my latest articles. It begins:
Most everyone longs for an ideal relationship. We may think of it as a seamless, mutually supportive, completely easy and nourishing union between two souls. But is that realistic? Let’s take a step back and examine the ingredients necessary to have a truly ideal relationship…
“How to Avoid Codependency in Relationships: Master The ‘Adaptation And Change’ Cycle”
I just posted a new article on LinkedIn. It begins:
“Communication skills are often taught from a technique standpoint. However, the foundation of communication skills lies deeper within us, involving our emotional instincts and unchecked habits. Awareness of such behavioral patterns is the foundation of communication mastery. By exploring the following examples, the door opens to a world of understanding and wise communication”…
“7 Common Barriers to Communication”