Moving Beyond Attack and Blame in Your Relationships

Moving Beyond Attack and Blame - Michael MamasThe Huffington Post just published one of my new articles. An excerpt:

…In every relationship, a partner will, from time to time, do something that the other doesn’t care for, making them feel offended, hurt, awkward, embarrassed, or criticized. Whether it is ignored at first and repeated until it becomes unbearable or is immediately addressed at the time, responding with attack and blame is not the best choice. Even some therapeutic approaches which suggest saying, “You did this and it therefore made me feel that,” can be counterproductive and alienating”…

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“Moving Beyond Attack and Blame in Your Relationships”

How to Avoid Codependency in Relationships

Master the ‘Adaptation and Change Cycle’ (Part 2)

Avoid Codependency - Michael MamasThe Huffington Post just published one of my latest articles. It begins:

Most everyone longs for an ideal relationship. We may think of it as a seamless, mutually supportive, completely easy and nourishing union between two souls. But is that realistic? Let’s take a step back and examine the ingredients necessary to have a truly ideal relationship…

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“How to Avoid Codependency in Relationships: Master The ‘Adaptation And Change’ Cycle”

7 Common Barriers to Communication

Barriers to Communication - Michael MamasI just posted a new article on LinkedIn. It begins:

“Communication skills are often taught from a technique standpoint. However, the foundation of communication skills lies deeper within us, involving our emotional instincts and unchecked habits. Awareness of such behavioral patterns is the foundation of communication mastery. By exploring the following examples, the door opens to a world of understanding and wise communication”…

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“7 Common Barriers to Communication”

The Delicate But Necessary Task of Opening Pandora’s Box

Pandora's Box - Michael just published one my latest articles. It begins:

As head of an organization, this happens all the time. Somebody comes up to me really upset and says so-and-so said such-and-such. I respond by saying, “That’s terrible. How could they say such a thing! What did you tell them? What did you say?” The response is always the same: “Oh, I didn’t say anything.”

“You didn’t say anything?” I exclaim. “How could you just let that pass? Why didn’t you say something?” Again the response is standard: “Oh, I just didn’t know what to say. I didn’t know how to say it. And besides, I was afraid they’d get mad. I didn’t want to rock the boat. Who knows where it could have led?”

Time to open Pandora’s Box!…

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“A Delicate But Necessary Task of Opening Pandora’s Box”

How to Gain Respect Instead of Making an Enemy

Gain Respect - Michael just published one of my latest articles. It begins:

“Most people have a role model in one form or another. For me, it was my great uncle on my father’s side. Born in Greece, he came to America at the age of 14, unable to speak a word of English. He was not formally educated. But by reading a lot, he was quite knowledgeable, refined and, above all else, very wise. When I was a child, he told me, “Any fool can make an enemy. It takes a wise person to make a friend.” It’s a simple notion, yet one very few master”…

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“Here’s How to Gain Respect Instead of Making an Enemy”

How to Transform Conflict and Gain Respect

Transforming Conflict - Michael just published my article about dealing with conflict. It begins:

“Wouldn’t it be a different world if everybody behaved in a way that is to your liking? Unfortunately, people’s responses can often be anger, resentment, dissent or sarcasm. That can feel like a slap in the face, with your first response being to retaliate. At first glance, the very idea of simply “turning the other cheek” can seem weak, pathetic and ineffective, not to mention unnatural. But if you take a more insightful look, turning the other cheek can offer a powerful, effective and masterful response”…

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“How to Transform Conflict and Gain Respect”