“What kills a skunk is the publicity it gives itself” – Abraham Lincoln
Our actions have consequences. All too often we blame others for problems we created for ourselves. That is why it is always good to at least consider how we might be 100% responsible for problems and conflicts we find ourselves in. Even when dealing with someone who was indisputably misbehaved, such reflection can always be productive. We always do well to at least consider that others opinions of us are the result of our actions and not just their projections. That is a powerful tool for improvement of our behavior.
This is a good reminder, it is all too easy to blame the other person.
“…It is always good to at least consider how we might be 100% responsible for problems and conflicts we find ourselves in” is a very significant idea for me. Whenever I look at a situation I don’t like, and go in deeply, I almost always find something that I did or said that precipitated the situation – that if I had done differently, might have avoided the situation. Thank you for saying so clearly and succinctly.
My blamed has been active lately. Thank you!
I often ask myself when I find myself in a situation I don’t like, what could I learn from this. The answer to that question often shows me how I at least contributed to creating the situation in the first place.