“What kills a skunk is the publicity it gives itself” – Abraham Lincoln

Our actions have consequences. All too often we blame others for problems we created for ourselves. That is why it is always good to at least consider how we might be 100% responsible for problems and conflicts we find ourselves in. Even when dealing with someone who was indisputably misbehaved, such reflection can always be productive. We always do well to at least consider that others opinions of us are the result of our actions and not just their projections. That is a powerful tool for improvement of our behavior.

We Make Our Own Problems, by Michael Mamas